One thing I learned at an early age is how to communicate. I’ve been a Chatty Cathy for as long as I can remember; however, it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized I have sort of a self-control problem when it comes to speaking. I’m not even sure when this all started but I began to notice that I would share things with certain people about myself that I already promised myself I would never share. No, it’s not like I’m one of those people who over share, but I’m a strong believer in keeping people guessing and not always telling people your next move although the evidence of that is not so obvious at times. It has even gotten to the point where I talk so much that I even end up agreeing to do things that I don’t even want to do, but I get so caught up and carried away in conversations sometimes that I walk away like “Wait, what did I just agree to?” After observing my actions for awhile I started to realize that I am really quick to respond to things and possibly the problem is that I don’t thoroughly think things through before I speak. At twenty-one years old I am starting to learn that it is impossible to fast talk through life without constantly winding up in annoying, uncomfortable and unnecessary situations. Following my self-observation I also learned that my blabber mouth can also say some pretty hurtful things when I’m not thinking things through as well. Case in Point, a few days ago a good friend came over to visit and as we sat in my room having girl talk and browsing the web we wound up on Facebook and I said something so mean and unnecessary about one of my Facebook friends who was a former high-school classmate. That is when I realized that my mouth was becoming a problem because I’ve never been the type of person to say hurtful things for no reason. Ironically enough, when I went to read my scripture that night before bed it was from Matthew 15 where Jesus spoke to some Pharisees about inner purity. Then, I came to the part where Jesus said “Listen and try to understand. It’s not what goes into youth mouth that defiles you; you are defiled by the words that come out of your mouth“. Jesus then went on to explain, “Anything you eat passes through the stomach and then goes into the sewer. But the words you speak come from the heart- that’s what defiles you. For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all sexual immorality, theft, lying and slander“. I sat there like “Wow”. At least four of the commandments can be violated by my tongue alone. You can imagine the conviction I felt after that. In an effort to get this tongue under subjection I went on a mad search for this book that I’d seen lying on my mom’s dresser for awhile called 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue by Deborah Smith Pegues. As I scanned the table of contents I realized my problems were bigger than I thought. The table of contents listed the different types of tongues. My blabber mouth fell into at least 15 out of the 30 tongues discussed! Just as I started to begin feeling overwhelmed as I frequently do I read page one which first quotes James 3:8 “No man can tame the tongue“. The author then adds on, “Neither New Year’s Resolution, nor counting to ten nor other self-efforts will prevail in conquering this unruly member“. My anxiety instantly disappeared because James let’s me know and the author echos him in saying that the tongue could never be tamed by human strength, but it must be “bridled and brought under subject by Him [God]“. Right then and there I not only made a promise to finish this book but to see this task to completion and to be serious about bringing my big mouth under subjection once and for all. The author also encourages readers to go on what she calls a “30 Day Tongue Fast” which is “a quest to become sensitive to the negative uses of the tongue and to abstain from these verbal violations of godly principles“.
What’s your unruly tongue’s story?